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The lesson I learnt yesterday

Sometimes life can be really cruel to you. It hurts more when you have been trying to be nice.

Yesterday, it was raining when I left home to reach office in time. I have been using Rekha`s TVS Scooty ever since we came back after marriage. And mind you, she still has a big ‘L` board on her vehicle.

The riding was difficult. The waterlogged roads were epitomes of bottlenecks and the traffic was equally bad. Yet there was no dearth of hitchhikers. Through my wet glasses, which one of these days will be fitted with a pair of wipers, I could see a middle-aged man signal frantically for somebody to stop and give him a lift.

It was raining and here was a fellow human being left with no transport but a pair of legs to traverse the potholes ridden Velachery Road. My heart went out to him. I stopped next to him and shouted to be heard: “Hop on, will drop you on the main road.”

He walked a few steps towards me, and then stood still on his tracks. Despite it being just rain, he froze. And then said: “That`s fine, you go ahead. I will manage.”

I was taken aback. I did not understand.

“Why? What happened? I though you wanted a lift and now you refusing?”

“No sir, that`s fine. You go ahead. I will manage.”

I could hold it no longer. He was testing my patience in pouring rain, and that I can tell you is a difficult test to pass.

“But why?”, I enquired indignantly.

By now, the man had managed to wave down another two-wheeler and was in a hurry to finish the conversation. Even as I sat on Rekha`s TVS Scooty, in pouring rain wondering what went wrong, he would say… “Saar, neengale orru ‘L` Board*” …before vanishing behind a sheet of rain.

*In English it means: “You still carry the ‘L` Board tag.”

I am back in Chennai.

From Madurai to Kannur to Kumarakom and back…Such a Long Journey
(now thats a Rohinton Mistry novel…good one…but shows India in bad
light).

Rekha has started cooking. And I have been taking care of the
materialistic world of consumer durables. God…I need to read some
book on negotiation skills.

My parents are here…and my mom has been giving cooking & house
keeping tips to Rekha. The flint stones are yet to rub hard enough…if you know what I mean 😉

My father is enjoying his usual Green Label whiskey in his son’s house. I can see the sense of pride in his eyes.

As of now…I feel like a superman…but for how long…

Here is something contextual that a good old dog called Nameet sent me –

Before finding a Girl…a man is…….Superman
After finding a Girl…………a man is……….Spiderman
After Engaging with a Girl……a man is…….Gentleman
After Marrying a Girl……….a man is………..Watchman
Five Years after marriage ……….a man is………. Doberman

A new job?

My twenty-four day leave is coming to an end. What a pity. Now I feel like getting into a profession where one just roams around and gets paid. Planning to get into the marriage business. But will Rekha agree?

Already started thinking of the errands to run once I get to Chennai. God…save me. Need to get a lunch box too…Rekha has been threat-en-ing me that she would give me lunch when I leave home for office. Sob…Sob..Sob..

One of those rare moments…

It was one of those moments that can not be captured with a still camera. Or for that matter with a motion camera. Afterall, every moment has its share of hormonal rush, its share of hidden feelings and unsaid words.

My marriage reception was coming to an end and Rekha’s family had decided to leave Malar Maligai (the venue for the three hour long function in Madurai).

I called Rekha’s father aside, held his sweaty right hand and said: “Uncle, do not worry. I will take good care of your daughter. And that is a promise.”

Even before I had finished, tears had rolled down his cheeks. He did not utter a single word…but conveyed a lot. Rekha would see her father break into tears and join the party…

Her father held my hand for what seemed like an eternity. Without a single word being said after my manly promise, he would get down from the stage and walk into the crowd.

I felt like a man for the first time in my life. He really loves her…and I knew those tears were not stage managed.

With a single well-rehersed sentence, I had managed to bring some peace to the man who has lost both his daughters to intelligent & smart bridegrooms (one of them being me ;-). Now, I only wish I can ful-fill my promise.

Next post will be from Kannur..where I will be spending three days before we head to Kumarakom for our honeymoon.

It is over ;-)

Rekha and I are married. At 11.45 a.m. on the 8th of Sept 2004 we were pronounced husband and wife.

Thirty two awe-struck friends and relatives from Tamil Nadu looked on even as my soon-to-be-relatives herded me into the Anna Poorneshwari temple at Kannur.

Am glad I was given five minutes to wear the ‘pattu’ dhotti in the bus. Later, I would come to know the people had started decorating Rekha as early as 9 a.m.. What disparity.

Once inside the temple, everybody was at my beck and call. A certain nobody lifted clear my dhoti whenever I steped into unknown waters, while a certain somebody was at hand to wipe my face every 15 seconds. Not that the temple was sultry – it had been raining for the last two days – I was tense.

A very beautiful Rekha was there waiting for my arrival. How times change, once man learns to accept things…life takes a beautiful turn.

The Kerala style wedding was completely a new experience. Here is something that stands out among the marriages in Madurai and Kannur…

Some 7-8 relatives of Rekha presented her gold rings…and I did not even know. They came to her house a few days before the marriage and put it on her finger in privacy. Only one uncle of mine presented me with a ring…and he ensured that all the photographers (3) and videographers (2) had snapped the moment for posterity before he let go of my finger.

It has been an amazing feeling thus far. I just hope…the honey moon lasts long. As of now…I can gladly take a bullet for Rekha. Will I ever go to Burma bazaar looking to buy a pistol? Only time will tell.

Some Trivia:
1) Pramod Kutty was the first from Chennai to wish me
2) From my team, Meera was first to wish me
3) I must have got some 4-5 congratulatory calls from office. Do I still need to throw a party for them?